What price?

Tell me, what price do you put on friendship? 

Ohhhhh, I felt that resistence. So you don't think you put a price on friendship? Okay, I would like to explore that for a moment, and let's see what we find, okay.

First we have the relationship that develops because of the businesses you are a part of. Is this really a relationship, a 'friendship'. Let's give it a test. Would you be in a relationship with this person if there were no business aspects involved, nothing of a financial nature? Ahhhh, now we are beginning to see a little bit.

Next, we have the relationship that develops because time has passed and you are still in contact with another person. Is this really a relationship, a 'friendship'. Again, I suggest we give it a test. Would you be in a relationship with this person if you just met them today? If you had not known this person for 20 years would you overlook the way they talk down to you? If you had not shared multiple experiences with this person, would you want to have conversations with them, and what would those conversations look like without the commonality of shared time together? Ahhhh, we are beginning to see a bit more clearly now.

Next, we have the relationship that develops due to social settings. This is probably the most shallow of all relationships, as it is based upon nothing more than a common interest in blending with other people. If you did not share a common interest, concern, hobby, etc., with these people, would you choose to have them as a part of your daily life?  Okay, now the eyes are becoming quite clear.

And last but not least, we have the relationship that exists because of a bond, whether that bond be blood, marriage or children, because of this bond we feel committed to being in a relationship with another person. And yet we change as time passes. We move in different directions. We may have never been going in the same direction as someone that we are related to, and yet because we share DNA we believe that we must be in a relationship with another person.

Relationships, like everything else, are transient. Our very existence on this physical plane is transient, and yet we try to attach permanence to all aspects of this existence, as though those aspects will continue to exist beyond us.

I propose that you are not a commodity. You are not an object to be used to further another persons existence. You are not a tool to be used to make another persons life better. You are not a thing that is here to be used and used up by others. You are a being of light and love, that is having a physical experience in order to understand yourself. Everyone around you is the same. All aspects of the outer world that you feel is so important, including relationships, is nothing more than the dressing that surrounds us. All things physical could fall away this moment, and you would still exist. Try to understand this and you will come closer to understanding the truth of yourself.

I suggest that you look around and see through everything that surrounds you. Know that nothing physical is permanent, and see all beings and all things as temporary dressing that you are enveloping yourself with for the moment. Now see yourself dropping that dressing and choosing another. Life is as simple as this. Do not be so caught up in any one, or any thing, that you lose yourself. After all, without you as the observer, nothing could be observed.

Existing in a state of impermanence,  SisterSea